Unleash Your Power Part2

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Magical Tip #2: Be Specific

“I don’t care how much power, brilliance or energy you have, if you don’t harness it and focus it on a specific target, and hold it there you’re never going to accomplish as much as your ability warrants.” – Zig Ziglar

When a sorcerer casts a spell, he has a very specific outcome in mind. And he has very particular words for it to happen. To release balls of fire, for example, a sorcerer uses specific spell words with the exact intention of creating the fire as he wants it to look.

You would not see a sorcerer floundering and calling out vague words that would pass for a spell. For those who even change a syllable of the spell word, the consequences can be disastrous, achieving an entirely different result.

Like a sorcerer, you have to be very specific with the thoughts you want realized. If you are not specific, you might not get it. Or, you might get it but not really get it – meaning, the outcome is not as good as you wanted it to be. Or in some cases, the outcome may not really be good at all. The cliché “Be careful what you wish for” is actually true.

One joke is a good illustrative example of the last point:

A man rubbed a lamp and a genie appeared.

“Your wish is my command,” the genie said. “What is your wish?”

“I want to be irresistible to women!” the man exclaimed.

“Wish granted.”

Poof! The man turned into a Visa credit card.

So, how specific should you be with what you want? As specific as you can get!

The way to make a dream specific is to turn it into a goal. A goal is a dream in detail, with a deadline. You have your list from the magic wand exercise – it is now time to make these items specific. To illustrate the difference between a dream and a goal, see the sample statements below:

DREAM

1. I want a bigger, beautiful house.

2. I want to be rich.

3. I want a more fulfilling, high-paying job.

GOAL

1. I will move into my new white two-storey house with six bedrooms, a pool, a library, and a tennis court at [location] by March 30, 2009.

2. I will have one hundred million [currency] in my bank account by April 30, 2015.

3. I will be working at [company] with a salary of [amount] by January 3, 2008.

See how specific goals are? Setting definite deadlines is particularly important – not only does it let you take responsibility and gives you a sense of urgency – not to mention excitement – it also gives more power to your thoughts. How, you may ask?

Compare a goal that has a deadline with a goal that does not have one. Often the goal with no deadline gets stuck in the “someday” part of a person’s mind. And sometimes – or most of the time – that “someday” never comes.

So, take out your magic wand list and start clarifying your dreams into goals. Some items may be easy to clarify, while others may take longer as they may require research.

Going back to the sample statement on the job above, notice how very specific it was phrased when it was considered as a goal – it already had a particular company and salary. Before arriving at that goal, though, the person had to first find out what their dream company was and determine their ideal salary.

In many major, life-changing goals, you need to do research first to determine what you really want. To get your dream house, for example, you should know in detail what it would look like and determine its ideal location.

The idea of doing research may look like a lot of work and can even appear boring at first for some, but you have to do it in order to set clear, specific goals.

If it really feels like a burden doing research, you may have to go back to the question, “Do I really, really want this?” Maybe you are not as passionate about your dream as you originally thought.

If you are really passionate, though, researching may not appear much of a chore but a process you may actually enjoy. If it still feels like a bit of a burden even though you know you would really like to achieve your dream, think of researching as shopping. You are given an array of choices – be it of fruits, vegetables, sweets, clothes – and you just have to choose the one you like best from each group.

In the same manner that you are setting specific goals, set goals for specific areas in your life as well – relationships, career, money, spiritual life and leisure. Do not be afraid to turn your seemingly impossible dreams into goals. Remember that you have the mind power to achieve that, as you will find out later.

A note of caution, by the way – at this point where you are setting goals, do not think about how you are going to reach them. Doing so might even distract you and get you so stuck on the how that you would not be able to see the end result. Just concentrate on making your desired outcome as clear and specific as possible in your mind.

Once you have written your goals down, you can now read them aloud. Declare them, the way a sorcerer shouts a spell. Feel the power coming from your words. Do you sense a sudden shift in your energy or your perspective?

You can also declare your goals in the presence of a close friend. Notice how you feel at that moment. Do you not feel power and a certainty that your goal will materialize now that you have declared it to another person?

Now that you have the power of passion and clarity in your thoughts, you will learn about a magical tip that will further intensify your mind power and accelerate your progress in realizing your dreams.

Magical Tip #3: Visualize

“When you visualize, you materialize.” - Dr. Denis Waitley

Aside from concentration, a key principle in using magic is visualization. Even while sorcerers’ spell words are already specific, sorcerers are also able to hold an image of the outcome they want in their mind. If, for example, a sorcerer chose to release balls of fire, he can see the red-hot, angry, dancing fireball very clearly in his mind even before he casts the required spell. And the fireballs materialize exactly the way the sorcerer imagined them.

Once you have stated your goals in a clear and specific manner, the next step is visualization. Put simply, visualization is the process of purposefully creating images in the mind to consciously – or unconsciously – manifest into reality. Visualizing makes your goals even more specific. If you think passion and stating your goals clearly have already given your thoughts considerable power, I would like you to know that visualizing can increase that power by at least a factor of ten.

Surprised? Remember the old saying “A picture is worth a thousand words.” A picture can easily show what may take many sentences to explain or even ideas that cannot be totally captured by words.

In fact, pictures may be the best representation of physical reality. This is why visualizing your goals makes them very powerful – you are bringing them closer to manifesting into physical reality.

Motivational speaker Bo Bennett calls visualization “daydreaming with a purpose.” This is how easy and natural yet focused the process of visualization is. Unlike a daydream where you may leap from one scene to another in carefree fashion, you purposefully choose the scenes you will include when visualizing.

Merely choosing images and scenes related to your goal, however, is not enough. To achieve your goal, your visualized images should simulate reality as closely as possible. The more realistic they look, smell, taste, and feel, the greater the chances for them to come true – and fast!

Think back to your magic wand list. Can you think of corresponding images for each goal you wrote? With those, you can now start visualizing!

Here are some tips on how to visualize effectively:

1. Turn your goal into an exciting movie. If a single picture is worth a thousand words, just imagine how powerful animated pictures – even a short film – are. And, abiding by the principle of simulating reality, moving images are definitely closer to reality than still ones.

Here’s what you need to do – choose one of the goals in your magic wand list and picture a scene where you have already achieved that goal exactly the way you want it. What is the setting? Who are the people involved? What is happening? What are you doing? How do you feel?

Let it unfold in your mind the way a movie does – only, you are the lead actor. And, like any good actor, let yourself feel and act the way you would at that moment.

For example, you may imagine going home to your dream house. You just moved in the day before, and the contentment and excitement you feel at finally living in your dream house are very strong. Before going inside, you let your eyes feast on the exterior and bask in the moment that finally, this house is yours! You feel the solidness of the doorknob as you turn it. Upon entering, you smell your favorite food cooking. You take note of the details in the interior of the house, later focusing on a favorite of yours – like a particular painting or a rocking chair. Your spouse greets you with a hug and you fill each other in about how your respective days went. Later, when you talk about the house, your spouse exclaims, “This really is an amazing house.” You smile and say, “And now it’s ours.”

Notice that the scene above entails the use of other senses aside from sight. In creating your mini-movie, injecting sensory experiences makes the scene even more real for you. Employ smell, taste, touch and hearing, as applicable.

Also, in the usual movie, there is a musical score and special effects, among others. If appropriate, you can have a musical background to your mini-movie. You can also make some objects stand out through sharper color or by putting them on close-up.

Though this may appear obvious, I would like to stress that when imagining your mini-movie, always make sure that you are in it. Remember, your images should be very specific. Visualizing only your dream house without you in it may bring you to circumstances where you see your dream house but do not get it. Or, if you regularly visualize looking around your dream house with you considering buying it, you may indeed find yourself in that situation but never get around to buying it. What you include and exclude in your movie can make the crucial difference.

2. Relax. When imagining your movie, do so in a relaxed state. Get into a comfortable sitting position, close your eyes and breathe deeply. Focus on each muscle of your body and let each relax one by one. Keep breathing deeply until you feel you are fully relaxed. A relaxed mind and body will allow you to focus more on your mini-movie.

After imagining your movie, take several deep breaths again and slowly open your eyes.

3. Visualize repeatedly. This is particularly helpful for long-term goals. Repetition makes your visualizations all the more powerful, especially if you make it into a habit. Make it a point to imagine your mini-movie at least once daily, upon rising in the morning or before going to sleep. Ideally, you should do it both in the morning and at night.

4. Gather photos or drawings that show you with your goal manifested. To further help you in your visualization, cut out pictures or draw the images that can best represent the outcome you want to achieve. Choose very specific pictures as much as possible – and make sure that you are in the pictures!

For example, you may cut out a photo of a beautiful place in a country you want to go to. Put a photo of yourself on that picture afterwards to help you visualize that you are indeed there right now.

Make a habit of looking at these pictures everyday. You can put them on your bedroom wall, where you can see them upon waking up and before sleeping. Or you can put them in a notebook or binder and bring them with you so you can look at them whenever you feel like it. You can also scan them and set them as wallpaper for your personal computer.

With effective visualization, how can you not reach your goal? It is just a matter of time before it materializes. And, with very intense, vivid and frequent visualizations, goals can actually materialize at an astonishing speed.

Remember, though, that passion for your goals – especially long-term ones – is essential, especially when you start visualizing them. As visualization takes up a part of your time every day, make sure that you really want what you are visualizing so that you will take time for it regularly.

To summarize all the elements of effective visualization, I give you these words from management thinker and educator Jim Collins:

No matter what. Wherever your mind wanders, it seems to turn up at the same Field of Dreams. It’s the vision you wake up with in the morning, and it’s the last thing you picture before you fall asleep. Everytime you think of it, the idea in your head seems to get more vivid, filled in with more detail: You not only want to win a gold medal at the Olympics, you not only can see yourself standing there on the podium, but you can also feel the goose bumps as your national anthem is played; the tears are in your eyes. (That’s how real a dream can and should be).


Yes, that is how real your dream should be.

Magical Tip #4: Believe

“Aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn’t be able to fly, but the bumblebee doesn’t know that so it goes on flying anyway.” - Mary Kay Ash

A sorcerer has belief in himself, in the spell he casts and the magic from the universe from where he draws energy. The true sorcerer knows, even before he casts the spell, that it will materialize.

A sorcerer trusts the universe, the power of magic, and his own power.

The same principle applies to you. To make your thoughts materialize, you have to believe – really believe – in these three things: 1) the universe, which overflows in abundance to give you what you want, 2) the power of the mind, and 3) yourself.

1. Believe in the abundance of the universe.

Everything you ask for is yours for the taking if you just believe that the universe can give it to you. Everything you can want – everything anyone can want – the universe can provide.

Maybe you are feeling doubtful upon reading this. Has not the world always suffered from lack, from scarcity? And, on a personal level, maybe you have suffered from bad things or unfortunate circumstances. Or maybe you have been settling for just good enough.

But the truth is, the universe can give more than enough for everyone. The mindset of lack and disbelief in abundance is the poison that prevents you and other people from living in abundance. At one point or another, in one form or another, you may have heard some or all of these limiting beliefs from your family, teachers, elders, and peers:

“Life is difficult.”

“You must work hard and make a lot of sacrifices to get what you want.”

“There is not enough for everyone. You have to compete or take from others to get what you want.”

“Be satisfied. What you’ve already got is good enough.”

“It is selfish to ask for a lot.”

Variation: “It is selfish to ask for more when others are suffering and don’t have much.”

But no matter how much these ideas have been impressed on your mind, you can begin to change your circumstances right now. Begin to believe that the universe is overflowing with abundance.

Here are two exercises to help you start believing in the universe’s abundance:

Exercise # 1

Write down all the good things in your life or things you are thankful for right now. Focus on the general as well as the specific aspects of your life – your family, friendships, school or work, extracurricular activities, etc. It could be something permanent or something in the moment, like an event or an experience. Recall briefly the good feelings you had – or still have – for each item.

Do not stop until you cannot think of anything else. Review your list and realize just how much the universe has already given you even though you may not have consciously believed in its abundance. And how much, much more it can give you.

Exercise # 2

Sit down in a comfortable position, close your eyes and breathe slowly and deeply until you feel you are fully relaxed.

Imagine that you are in a beautiful natural place – like a forest, mountaintop, waterfall, or anything that suits your fancy. Walk around the place and bask in its beauty – breathe in the air, smell the flowers and touch the living creatures there. Feel how all living things there live in harmony – the animals getting more than enough to eat and drink, the plants and trees getting enough sun and water. Repeat this process in as many beautiful places you would like.

Then let the images of nature slowly fade in your mind’s eye. Now, picture yourself walking towards a huge feast. The table is very long, heaped with all kinds of delicious food. All the people, dressed in fine clothes, are eating and dancing to very lively, upbeat music. You look down at yourself and realize that you are also dressed in finery. You join in the festivities and marvel how the food never seems to run out and how all the people are very happy.

You can do variations of this exercise. Use your imagination to create a world where everyone is living fully and abundantly.

You can also make affirmations, especially when you feel your old beliefs surfacing. Below are a few examples. You can also create ones of your own.

“The universe has more than enough for me and everyone.”

“I am living in abundance right here, right now!”

“I was born to live in abundance!”

“Life is getting better and better for me everyday.”

Continue to believe in the universe’s overflowing abundance and see for yourself more and more good things coming into your life.

2. Believe in mind power.

As mentioned in the introduction, you were born with the power to turn your thoughts into reality. This may be difficult to grasp at first, and you may even be tempted to think that such things are only the stuff of fantasy. But this power is very natural, much like how we learn to walk and how birds learn to fly.

Acknowledging this fact will help you believe that what you want will actually be yours. Set a goal, focus passionately on it, visualize and believe it will happen and nothing can go wrong. Belief is essential, as no matter how focused you are and how clear your visualization is, any kind of doubt can seriously prevent your goal from materializing.

Doubt blocks your power and the manifestation of your goals. Worse, if you put your energy into visualizing the opposite of what you want, then it will most likely happen.

Again, in one way or another, in some form or other, you may have heard any of these statements expressing doubt:

“That’s impossible!”

“That has never been done before.”

“Persons A, B & C were only able to [accomplishment]. How can you go beyond that?”

Believing in these statements would only prevent you from living the life you want. If you believe in the power of the mind, nothing is impossible. In fact, it is the people who refused to accept these statements who did the impossible. And some did it not only for themselves but for the world.

Imagine the early humans. The concept of fire or heat must have been impossible at first. They were used to eating raw food, and kept themselves warm through animal furs and other means. But someone discovered fire, to the convenience of all.

Thomas Alva Edison also believed the impossible. He knew that there was a way to make a fully functional light bulb. Each time he failed, he knew he had just found another way of not making a light bulb, and he believed he would find the right way soon enough. It is thanks to him that we now enjoy light at night.

The Wright brothers knew that there was a way for people to travel on air – and they found it, to the convenience of people even a century later.

In fact, the seed of every greatness – an invention, discovery, wealth, success – is mind power.

To help you create a mindset of belief, you can use the following affirmations daily. Or, you can create your own.

“Anything is possible.”

“There is always a way.”

“Everything I want is now materializing.”

These affirmations will generally help you assume a more open, believing attitude. Meanwhile, to ensure that your specific goals will materialize, make specific affirmations after your visualization. You can say something like, “I believe this is now materializing,” and feel the feeling associated with that belief.

3. Believe in yourself.

This is an essential condition for your goals to be realized. Not believing in yourself considerably diminishes the power, or energy, of your goals. At some times in your life, you may have expressed these or other similar apprehensions:

“I can’t do it.”

“I am too young / old to do this.”

“But I’m not good at [skill]!”

“I don’t know anything about this!”

Now, if you find yourself thinking along these lines, recall your belief in the universe and in mind power – that anything is possible through the mind. If you believe this, why should you not believe in yourself? After all, you were born with mind power.

Vincent van Gogh said it well: “If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”

Realize that the only limits you have are the limits you set for yourself. Other than that, you are a human being with powerful, unlimited potential.

You may also find the following affirmations useful:

“I have a special, amazing power to make my dreams come true.”

“I can do anything through mind power.”

“I can accomplish anything I want right now.”

“I can easily learn [skill] to get what I want.”

Feeling more powerful now? Yes, anything is indeed possible. But even as you are fired up now with your dreams and the possibilities, read on and find out how you can conquer more obstacles which might stand in the way of your goals.

Magical Tip #5: Accept

“If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price.” - Author Unknown

A sorcerer anticipates and fully accepts the outcome of his spell. He accepts it naturally, much like the way we “accept” the air in our bodies when we breathe.

In the same manner, you should also accept the outcome, the realization of your goal – even before it actually happens. Accept it to be true. Claim it as yours already.

Now, you may ask, “Isn’t that supposed to be easy? Isn’t it natural to accept when it’s a good thing that’s coming to you?”

Ideally, it is supposed to be easy and very natural, like the analogy I gave earlier of “accepting” the air we breathe. Unfortunately, this is not always true. Some people actually find it hard to accept good things in life as they are experiencing negative emotions that block the flow of good things to them. When people feel low self-esteem, resentment, fear or guilt, it is difficult for them to receive from the universe.

Some people have been used to living in lack and hardships. This is usually a sign of a poor self-image or a lack of self-esteem wherein they consciously – or unconsciously – feel they do not deserve good things in life.

Worse, some may actually sabotage their own dreams – usually unconsciously. They may already be close to their goal when they suddenly do something that will take them away from it.

Such feelings of unworthiness usually spring from childhood and may come in the form of trauma from a single event or repeated events, at home or at school. The trauma may have a lasting impact on thought patterns, self-image and behavior even in adulthood.

To check if you are capable of accepting the outcome of your goal, ask yourself “Am I willing to receive this fully?” Are you in a light, happy mood whenever you think about your goal, visualize it, and imagine its outcome? Or do you get knots in your stomach, however fleeting? Do you sometimes feel – even briefly – that you don’t deserve the outcome when you visualize it? Do you feel guilt?

If you do find out that a part of you feels you don’t deserve the outcome of your goal, honestly ask yourself why. If this triggers a painful childhood memory, just allow the memory and the feeling to enter you and don’t fight it. Should you feel that you need help sorting out your feelings and memories in order to heal your past, though, seek guidance from a trained counselor you can trust.

As you remember that memory, you can close your eyes and acknowledge it in your mind. Address it and say “You have hurt me before and I have carried you for a long time. But I will leave you now. You no longer have any power over me.” Imagine walking away, feeling lighter and lighter with each step.

Another exercise you can do to heal your past is the “unloading exercise.” Close your eyes and imagine that you are carrying several heavy bags and loads of many kinds. (You can also do this in reality). Assign each bag or load to represent a painful memory in your past. Now put the bags down, one by one, and feel yourself getting lighter and lighter. After you have put all your bags down, walk away.

Now, to replace all the negative feelings associated with these painful memories with positive ones that boost your self-image, make affirmations about your worth every day, ideally upon waking up and before going to bed. Examples are:

“I am a unique, wonderful human being.”

“I am a special person worth loving and listening to.”

“I do not need to please everyone. I love myself and the people who matter love me.”

“I am getting better and better every day.”

“I deserve the best in life.”

“I have a lot to contribute and people acknowledge it.”

“I accept all the good things in life that come to me.”

To give your affirmations more impact, you can also do this in the second and third person – “Jane, you deserve the best in life” or “Jane deserves the best in life.” Phrasing affirmations this way are particularly powerful as the negative words that undermine your self-worth usually come from other people, either directly addressed to you or overheard.

You can reinforce these positive feelings with a self-appreciation exercise:

Close your eyes, take deep breaths until you fully relax then picture a person close to you talking to you and telling everything they like about you. Even if you feel embarrassed, try to call to mind truthfully what this person would say to you. After they are finished, reverse roles. Assume the identity of the other person, and while you are telling yourself what you appreciate, feel the feelings of warmth and appreciation this person close to you has while talking to you. See yourself through their eyes. Notice how you feel.

Even though you may have suffered for years from poor self-worth, rest assured that continuous daily affirmations and regular appreciation exercises can counterbalance all those. And each time you catch yourself thinking badly of yourself, say the opposite (e.g. I am not good enough ? I am more than good enough!). You can also recite one of your daily affirmations.

As you build up your self-image, you are also building up your mind power to make your dreams come true.

Usually related to low self-esteem, fear is another block that can stop your dreams from materializing. This is usually a fear of what will happen when your dreams have materialized. You may be fearing some negative things happening as a result of achieving what you want. Usually what people fear is more responsibilities and obligations (e.g. Having more money means more relatives will keep borrowing money from me) or how people will react to them (e.g. What if my friends become jealous?). You can also have fearful thoughts while on the way to achieving your goals.

Fearful thoughts usually magnify the expected result. The bad news, though, is if you focus on fear, then you will get more of it or what you fear might actually happen. Remember, you create your reality with your thoughts.

So if you find yourself thinking along the lines of the examples given above, face your fears head-on.

When you feel fear, do not resist it. Just allow yourself to feel it. Then ask yourself “Why I am afraid?” You can apply the “laddering” technique here, where you ask one question after the other. So you start with “Why I am afraid?” The answer may be, taking the example from above, “Having more money means more relatives will keep borrowing money from me.” Then ask yourself “Why am I afraid that my relatives will keep borrowing money from me?” The answer to that may be “Because I cannot say no” Then, “Why do I have a hard time saying no?”, the answer to which may be a painful “Because I hate it when I displease other people. I would rather be hurt than hurt others.” Asking questions will help pinpoint the main cause. And once you know what’s causing the fear, you can face it. In this case, the root is connected to low self-esteem, which may be addressed with the earlier exercises.

Aside from the “laddering” exercise, face your fear by asking yourself: “Realistically, just how bad will the result be?” Again, as previously mentioned, when we fear, we tend to make the big bigger and the scary scarier. Maybe it is not actually as bad as you think.

By doing these, you see your fears from a more realistic perspective and their power over you is considerably diminished. Remember to affirm once you have finished putting your fears in perspective so the negative feeling of fear is replaced by positive energy.

Another emotion that can prevent you from accepting the realization of your goals or of good things in general is resentment. As resentment is a negative feeling and is accompanied by negative thoughts, your power to create good things in your life is significantly diminished. It is you, not the person you resent, who suffers. Actor, writer and politician Malachy McCourt summed it up well: “Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”

Search your feelings – is there anyone you bear a grudge against or have not forgiven? Be honest. After you have identified the person or persons against whom you still have ill feelings, you can now start throwing away your resentment in order to fully accept the good things in life.

This is what you can do – write a letter pouring out all your feelings to the person. Do not hold back. Write everything – do not leave anything out. After writing, throw away your letter or tear it up. Close your eyes and imagine the person in front of you. Tell that person: “You have caused me a lot of pain. But I am also causing myself pain by not forgiving you. Now I am letting you go. I forgive you.” Slowly walk away from that person.

A variation of this exercise would be to imagine the person in front of you from the very start with you pouring out all your feelings towards them. After unloading your emotions, take several deep breaths before acknowledging the pain you also inflict on yourself and say you now forgive them.

On the other hand, if you are the one who hurt someone or did someone wrong and you have not settled things with the person, your guilt also gets in the way of your receiving good from the universe. Talk with the person and apologize to them as soon as you can – even if they do not forgive you immediately, at least you can start letting go of your guilt. Believe that you can heal relations with that person.

In case you have lost all possible ways of communicating with the person or if the person has already passed away, you can do this short exercise to ask for forgiveness:

Sit in a comfortable position, close your eyes and breathe slowly and deeply. Imagine the person standing before you and find the words to make that person feel how sorry you are. Eventually see that person smiling and saying “I forgive you.”

Rid yourself of all negative feelings that weigh you down and fill yourself up with positive ones. With this new disposition, you can fully accept all the good that will come to you.

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