Seems this has also struck a note with others sharing in the dialogue as well, which is proof in and of itself that when someone speaks their truth it opens the dialogue for countless other to get introspective of their own lives. Thank you so much for your dedication to people and most importantly for inspiring me to take a look internal as well, I sense I still have some skeletons as well. I take comfort in one belief that guides me well “When Unhealthy Beliefs surface, I choose to recognize that beliefs are never true..it is our thoughts about them that create the chaos. Therefore…my work is in changing the perception of the belief.” Aha, there goes one now ..Belief “what will they think of me” <–belief changed to "how silly of me to think that I am the center of someone else's universe….LOL, now thats funny"

In Gratitude my friend….Alex

Being a survivor of sexual molestation myself, from a grandfather who passed away many years ago, I certainly can relate closely to your struggles. I spent most of my life after that incident trying to make up for being my own self-labeled titles of “damaged goods” and “not good enough”. Countless years in differing forms of prof. therapy and self therapy, deep nearly-lifelong depression, weight issues, eating disorders, out of control drinking, people pleasing, over-achieving to the point of exhaustion, abusive marriage, anger release exercises, books, seminars, hibernating, the therapy of my artwork… anything I could do or find to make me actually REALLY like myself, have even a couple of “hours” of untainted happiness and value myself past what this distant incident had helped install in my head. I thought that life was just to painful to want to stay on earth, luckily, I never had the courage to do anything about it. I was so alone.

Boy, are things different now. It took me working with many wonderful friends & coaches ( you’re included in that list), going right through many of the fears that tied me down (hence the name fearlessartz), self-help books, & learning that I COULD choose and change my thoughts and what I manifest/ attract in my life. My search for self love & value has finally come to be a VERY fruitful quest. I am happy and blessed past what I could have ever fathomed back then. And I actually totally know that I am lovable as I am and that going through all that made me who I am. I am so very grateful for all of it too & for being able to help others now. It’s no wonder we connected, and even though we don’t talk all that often, I knew intuitively how special you are.

I love you my friend, thank you for your courage to share your story with the world (it’s not easy to hit that submit button is it? … as I think the same to myself about this posting) but it IS very liberating. And no wonder so many people love you, including me,

Alissa

http://twitter.com/AlissaFereday

http://www.fearlessartz.com/

I guess to some extent we were flip sides of the same coin. In your case, you weren’t cognizant of what the issue was and couldn’t do anything to overcome the damages continually made. In my case, I still hear the echo of the words even though 2 decades have passed but I used it to make sure that no one could ever say those words to me again.

We both got damaged. Some may say that because I used it to motivate/drive me, I handled it positively. I’m not so sure because the words still are there. It doesn’t matter what is outside of us – how people perceive us – it is what is inside that matters. I struggled for a long time with how I handled this. It never felt right. But I didn’t want to go the other direction and let it negatively impact me.

Kudos to you for coming forward like you did. From my own experience, I know it’s not easy. I hope that this will be the start of a new path and direction for you. The big thing is to make peace with what was said. That starts with forgiveness so that you can move on.

Unfortunately many are not reality based.
So, when adversity hits, the defacto response is “Where’s my quick fix?”
Truth be told, that was my response once I began to submit to the thought that I was broken.

Where’s my quick fix? I had railed…
“It shouldn’t be this hard”, and such terms as these flew through the cranium at Mach5000 Fortunately I’ve got holes in my head or else they would still be bouncing around up there.

But, I really do hope that this helps others.
Life is such a precious process and keeping to sage wisdom as opposed to advertised beliefs is the only way to free oneself from the bondage of our past or even present mindsets.

Perception is 9/10th’s

–Dan

Massive catharsis Mr Dan! I think the great value of this great article is the perseverance in your story.

All too often I think we get so bummed by the inner friction that we somehow want to just settle the matter that we are bad, or losers, or at the very least, weak, but, you kept at the search, the journey, to find a handle, and now you can’t keep quiet.

I’m thinking your transparency and heart will help a lot of people – stay with it man.

Rick Butts
IMHBAO

I love your work Dan!

Elly

Would you believe these videos didn’t keep attention??? Personally I’m stunned.
But.. thats why testing is important.

I responded appropriately and consumed the valuable video content on this page. Thank you for bringing the pagentry and color to the Interweb today.

Sincerely,
Rick Butts

@AliveinMe @EpilepsyCures